Resolving Conflicts

Conflict -have you had one lately? It seems to be everywhere. How do you begin resolving conflicts? People refuse to listen to another’s opinion because it differs from theirs. What happens inside us to create a wall between us and another? Is is really so threatening to us that others don’t agree with us?

Resolving conflicts- is it even possible? I have spent the past year thinking about this topic. The political climate in the U.S. has been creating a division for years. My question -what can we do?

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Love’s Embrace

Opening to Love’s Embrace

My wish for you in the New Year of 2017 is that you open yourself to Love’s Embrace. It will be necessary as we go forward into this year to develop this as a habit. The new year will provide us with new beginnings and wonderful opportunities for growth on the spiritual path.

For me, the new year has brought moments of clarity, the clarity that was obscured in the last few months of 2016. There had been so many planetary shifts that created an energetic bounciness that reminded us to remain flexible as we navigated the bumpy waters. There was a call to release all that was not needed on the “boat” or else drown- resentments, hurts from the past, fear about the future, misconceptions about who we think we are. Hopefully, you didn’t fight letting go of what is no longer needed. But don’t worry – there are still many opportunities to release it!

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Finding Answers To Life’s Questions

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How do you find answers to Life’s questions? Does confusion reside in you?  How do you live in the unknown? How do you plan for the future when you don’t have answers???

Sometimes finding answers to Life’s questions gets placed on hold. In my recovery from kidney donation surgery, it was a challenge to plan for the future. I had spent 4 months planning for the surgery and 4 months to recover to my pre-surgery health. Medical testing, doctor appointments, exercise, and energy therapy appointments consumed my attention. I couldn’t focus on anything else. There could be no planning for my post-surgery future. I knew the donation would change my life in ways I couldn’t imagine. How can you plan for the future when you are in a phase of becoming? How can you find answers to Life’s questions?

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Fear or Peace – It’s Your Choice

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Fear or Peace – It’s Your Choice

You awaken in the morning. You brush the grogginess from your mind.You stretch your body. Before your feet hit the floor, you unconsciously set into motion how your day will proceed. You chose consciously or unconsciously what you create today. Affirm your power as an enlightened creator. It’s time to make a choice, one that comes from the deepest wisdom within you. The big question of the day – do you want to live in fear or peace?

In our most powerful moments, we easily chose peace. When tired and distracted by the repetition our daily tasks, we become lulled into unconsciousness. Our choices devolve into unconscious reactions. When fear knocks on our door, we let it in before recognizing this new visitor. Often it is a visitor that refuses to leave. We have forgotten that we are empowered beings who can make a choice. Now, what do we do???

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Transform Fear

Fear is your call to transform. Have you heard the call but ignored it? It often arises to get your attention. Something is disturbing your entire being, but you ignore it. It can’t give you any bigger warnings… you break out in a sweat, your heart races, your jaw and neck tighten, and your head is pounding.  It is saying “What more must I do to get your attention that something needs changing?” 

It’s just a warning sign to be on the lookout – there is danger ahead. You are not feeling safe on some level of your being. Sometimes there is a real danger- a car driving too close as you cross the street. Sometimes it is an imagined danger- a scenario we dream up, a story we tell ourselves from past experiences. We want to either fight, retreat or freeze.

What makes it so difficult for people to face their fear? I’ve found 3 big reasons.

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Stories Have Power

Stories Have Power

Stories have power. Choose them wisely.

Children have a limited understanding of life and make up stories to fill in the blanks. They are egocentric, focusing on the ME. It’s just a developmental stage, a necessary step to the forming of the personality. They try to make sense of events as they experience them. Unfortunately, their impressions are usually wrong.  As a child, we don’t realize stories have power when we create them. Many times, these impressions stay with us as adults, and we hardly ever question them.

Some of these impressions are the stories we tell ourselves that often bring pain for a lifetime if we don’t stop to examine them to see they were based on faulty perceptions.

I have faulty perceptions from my childhood. When the pain created by them grabs my attention, I bring them into the light to shift the perception into a truthful one. I hate to cause myself pain if I can avoid it. Believe me, I have experienced enough self-created pain, and it’s my personal mission to help myself and clients develop tools to let go of any avoidable pain.

This story caused me pain…it was a painful story I told myself.

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Manifest Your Future By Looking Ahead

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Manifest Your Future By Looking Ahead, Not From The Rear View Mirror

I spent much of my life being guided by what I saw in my rear view mirror. When using rear view mirrors, you know there are distortions in what you see. One thing I learned about this strategy is that I wasn’t just stuck, I was going backward. That is where I was placing my focus. I learned to manifest my future by looking at the past. I made decisions based on evidence from the trauma of my early childhood. I kept spinning in the beliefs of a powerless child. I created my present day reality from that sad, hurt and lonely place of a disempowered child.

Here’s what I got….fear, despair, frustration, overwhelm and a huge dose of self-doubt, self-judgment, and self-hate. Because what you focus on grows. My past was ever-present, still scaring me in my adulthood, repeating my past every day.

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Finding Your Way Out of Indecision

making choices (2)How does it feel when you need to make a decision and you just get so confused your head spins? Do you start to panic? Find out how to come out of the chaos and into the calm by listening to the tips on this audio.

 

The Sacred Fire of Your Life

Tend the sacred fire of your life.

Tend the sacred fire of your life.

One day you wake up and think “is this it? Scanning my self generating to-do list, juggling required tasks that scream urgent, doing everything for others- family, job, community – where is this headed? Help! My life is out of control! Where are all the things in life that created excitement, vibrancy, and the desire to jump out of bed in the morning?” When the demands on your time have a greater importance than you and your sanity, overwhelm reigns and joy vanishes.

Making the outer world in charge of your schedule only creates a victim mentality. It is time to take your power back. Set an intention: carve out time to get answers on resolving this situation.

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Really? How can these feelings be a gift?

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A new client has been having a challenging time lately. She works too many hours and isn’t making enough money to pay her debts. She has been troubled by anxiety, fear, anger, and frustration. She has been cycling through them and feels swept up in an endless cycle with no way out…she feels trapped.

These feelings are unpleasant to experience but I tell her “ these feelings are here to help you. There are the guideposts to healing. Pushing down feelings to escape them causes more pain then finding a way to be with them and accepting them in the moment. Learn to be mindful of the sensations and feelings so a new understanding can emerge.”

I ask her to name her feelings, to describe the body sensations. She replies, “I am feeling sensations of fear. My body is restless, my mind is racing, my breathing is so shallow I can barely feel it. I have a jittery feeling in my belly and I can’t sit still.”

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