Conflict -have you had one lately? It seems to be everywhere. How do you begin resolving conflicts? People refuse to listen to another’s opinion because it differs from theirs. What happens inside us to create a wall between us and another? Is is really so threatening to us that others don’t agree with us?
Resolving conflicts- is it even possible? I have spent the past year thinking about this topic. The political climate in the U.S. has been creating a division for years. My question -what can we do?
How do you find answers to Life’s questions? Does confusion reside in you? How do you live in the unknown? How do you plan for the future when you don’t have answers???
Sometimes finding answers to Life’s questions gets placed on hold. In my recovery from kidney donation surgery, it was a challenge to plan for the future. I had spent 4 months planning for the surgery and 4 months to recover to my pre-surgery health. Medical testing, doctor appointments, exercise, and energy therapy appointments consumed my attention. I couldn’t focus on anything else. There could be no planning for my post-surgery future. I knew the donation would change my life in ways I couldn’t imagine. How can you plan for the future when you are in a phase of becoming? How can you find answers to Life’s questions?
Fear or Peace – It’s Your Choice
You awaken in the morning. You brush the grogginess from your mind.You stretch your body. Before your feet hit the floor, you unconsciously set into motion how your day will proceed. You chose consciously or unconsciously what you create today. Affirm your power as an enlightened creator. It’s time to make a choice, one that comes from the deepest wisdom within you. The big question of the day – do you want to live in fear or peace?
In our most powerful moments, we easily chose peace. When tired and distracted by the repetition our daily tasks, we become lulled into unconsciousness. Our choices devolve into unconscious reactions. When fear knocks on our door, we let it in before recognizing this new visitor. Often it is a visitor that refuses to leave. We have forgotten that we are empowered beings who can make a choice. Now, what do we do???
Mindfulness – Managing the Chaos of Modern Life
Today’s world requires methods of managing stress and finding emotional balance. The fast pace of everyday life, with numerous demands on our time and energy, often leaves us frazzled and anxious. Our minds are always busy, analyzing, evaluating and planning.
Fear is your call to transform. Have you heard the call but ignored it? It often arises to get your attention. Something is disturbing your entire being, but you ignore it. It can’t give you any bigger warnings… you break out in a sweat, your heart races, your jaw and neck tighten, and your head is pounding. It is saying “What more must I do to get your attention that something needs changing?”
It’s just a warning sign to be on the lookout – there is danger ahead. You are not feeling safe on some level of your being. Sometimes there is a real danger- a car driving too close as you cross the street. Sometimes it is an imagined danger- a scenario we dream up, a story we tell ourselves from past experiences. We want to either fight, retreat or freeze.
What makes it so difficult for people to face their fear? I’ve found 3 big reasons.
Cleaning and healing???
Cleaning and healing : As I return to activities of daily living after kidney donation surgery, imagine my surprise feeling great joy as I was cleaning the bathroom. I had spent most of the last 6 weeks being coddled, resting so I could heal quickly and without any complications. My life was focused on healing. My energy level had to be nourished so I did not become exhausted. Even mental activity drained my energy reserve in the first few weeks after surgery. I finally would feel drawn to an activity, alerting me I had the energy to attempt the task. Slowly more activities showed up on the screen of my awareness, telling me if I didn’t overdo it, it was okay to reclaim an activity to my schedule. This week the object of my desire was cleaning the bathroom…
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This journey to kidney transplant land has taken many months and a few twists and turns in the road. You may already know I have decided to donate a kidney to my brother, Bob ( pre-surgery photo of us above). If you think the Chaos to Calm expert doesn’t experience fear, let me say this clearly….you are wrong! Facing this kidney transplant surgery with a positive expectation and a whole team of specialists in energy medicine supporting me has helped to minimize my fear, but truth be told, it’s still there. And the reality is…I’m the only one who can manage it.
I’m inviting you to follow along on my journey so that you may find some tips to help you in your quest to manage that many-headed hydra also known as worry, fear, and anxiety. I have had to deal with anxiety about my future health as well as my brother’s ability to accept the kidney I am donating.
Find the Present Moment!
The following mindfulness exercise gives your mind a focus, allowing you to shift your perspective away from anxiety, and towards the peace of the present moment. Set some time aside ( 5-10 minutes) in a comfortable chair, away from distractions. Do this whenever you need an anxiety release.
To shift your perspective, take a few deep, slow breaths, following the in and the out breath for a few minutes.
Manifest Your Future By Looking Ahead, Not From The Rear View Mirror
I spent much of my life being guided by what I saw in my rear view mirror. When using rear view mirrors, you know there are distortions in what you see. One thing I learned about this strategy is that I wasn’t just stuck, I was going backward. That is where I was placing my focus. I learned to manifest my future by looking at the past. I made decisions based on evidence from the trauma of my early childhood. I kept spinning in the beliefs of a powerless child. I created my present day reality from that sad, hurt and lonely place of a disempowered child.
Here’s what I got….fear, despair, frustration, overwhelm and a huge dose of self-doubt, self-judgment, and self-hate. Because what you focus on grows. My past was ever-present, still scaring me in my adulthood, repeating my past every day.